Telegraph Replaces Pony Express

Of course, the telegraph would be replaced by phones.  Then, faxes, email, facebook, texts, twitter, and telepathic laser thinking.

Okay, I don’t think that last one exists…yet.

But, change happens doesn’t it?  We readily agree that some things should be changed: underwear, oil, sheets, etc.  In fact, I’m glad they improved upon the pony express!

However, when systems change that affect our daily habits and way of operating in the world, we are prone to become uncomfortable.  Some of us transition quickly, some not so quickly.  As William Bridges pointed out in his dissection of the dynamics of change and transition, you must pass through three phases:

1. Ending-acknowledging that something has ended.

2. Neutral Zone-struggling with the disequilibrium of the questions when you’re not sure yet what the answers are.

3. New Beginning-adopting a new plan and setting out to do things a new way.

You may be experiencing changes such as these:

-Helping a loved one move because it is no longer safe for them to live at home alone

-Learning to live with a new condition or disease

-Operating at a new pace and with new tools and expectations in your job

-Figuring out how to communicate effectively in a changing relationship

Change can be thought of as the “nuts and bolts” of the situation.  The “thing” that is changing.  Transition refers more to how we live through and manage that change.  Transition is inherently spiritual, emotional, and mental.

If you are experiencing unwelcome change in your life, may I suggest that you begin by reflecting on which of the three phases you are in currently.  Next week, I’ll add some suggestions on transitioning gracefully.  But step one is to tell the truth about where you are.

Worth Repeating

Disenchantment, whether it is a minor disappointment or a major shock, is the signal that we are moving into transition.

-William Bridges