nstigators of Good #5
One of the worst casualties of COVID-19 has been the disappearance of socially appropriate physical touch. Hugs, handshakes, closeness.
Sure, you’ve had some reluctant, daring hugs along the way, or you may have been the object of someone else’s brazen display of their “right to hug.” But mostly, you have probably missed this. Even if you’re not much of a hugger like me, you probably still long to give more high fives, back pats, and noogies.
According to Dr. Dacher Keltner, “There are studies showing that touch signals safety and trust, it soothes. Basic warm touch calms cardiovascular stress. It activates the body’s vagus nerve, which is intimately involved with our compassionate response, and a simple touch can trigger release of oxytocin, aka ‘the love hormone.'”
So, how can you still experience adequate physical touch?
- Talk about this with the people in your house or in your bubble. We all have our ‘safe” people, and whether anyone has said it or not, we all need physical touch. So, as the old commercial said, “Reach out and touch someone.” But, don’t touch just anyone. Be prudent and discerning.
- Pets. If you have pets, you may very well have your outlet or source of affection.
- Be creative. You’ve certainly heard stories of hug suits, breath holding hugs, and the like. And remember, the virus is mostly spread through respiratory droplets and not so much touch. We clean our hands because of those droplets that may remain on surfaces or on each other.
It’s a challenge to be sure. Use your best judgement and be respectful of other people’s personal space, but don’t be afraid to initiate the conversation with your people about the need for touch.
Worth Repeating
A hug is like a boomerang-you get it back right away.
-Bill Keane
