Disappointment with Discipline

Freedom of Discipline #2

Disappointment is perhaps one of the most common experiences related to the notion of discipline and self-control. You start a diet, an exercise program, or some other worthy habit only to fall off the proverbial wagon. Or, perhaps you determine to curb your emotions and after some days of success, you blow up in ways you regret.

I am no stranger to these challenges. Yet, I know that discipline is a gift and at the same time something to be learned and acquired over time.

Some of our disappointment with discipline may be attributed to a standard of perfection rather than excellence. Even the most disciplined people need down time, off time, and grace. Naturally, we are disappointed when we experience repeated failure over a long period of time, sometimes giving up altogether or adopting an alternate narrative to excuse ourselves. Having spent a lot of time around successful people in the last quarter of their lives, I can tell you that I have met no one who spoke of accomplishing 100% of their goals and having zero weaknesses. It just doesn’t happen.

And yet, maintaining perfection as our standard only feeds the guilt and shame. Thus, the disappointment.

What is a realistic expectation of self-control? For now, think excellence, not perfection. In the next two weeks, I will write about the gift of self-control and the expectations of disciplined success.

So, dig into this notion of discipline and self-control. Expand your understanding. You may become more disciplined after all.

Worth Repeating 

Spectacular achievement is always preceded by unspectacular preparation.

-Robert Schuller