First steps in mastering this difficult skill
Admittedly, I prefer to say “Yes.” I like to help; I want to be available; and I don’t like the conflict.
But here’s the thing. Over time, I begin to resent the fact that I am overcommitting myself, spreading myself too thin, and not being able to fully engage in my higher priorities. Rarely, is it about what is good or bad, but rather about what is better or best.
So, “No” is a necessity for success in any area of life. To that end, here are five ideas about saying “No” that may help you live into a better “Yes.”
1. Define your “Yes.” What are your highest priorities? Where do you want and need to invest your time, energy, and money?
2. Let your “No” be “No.” Don’t water it down. Don’t leave the door open with “maybe.” Be kind, but be firm.
3. No, but…you can still offer some affirmation and hope. For instance, “I can’t take that on right now, but you might ask…” Or, no, I can’t help this time, but you might think about…or here’s how you could get it done.” Be helpful without always having to be the solution.
Of course, some things just have to be done whether you want to or not. But, be wise with your “Yes” and your “No.”
Worth Repeating
Action expresses priorities.
-Ghandi
