Timeless Truths #3
“Suffering is universal. But victimhood is optional,” states Dr. Edith Eger.
When bad things happen, you may sometimes be prone to ask, “Why me? What have I done to deserve this? Why do these things happen to me?” This set of questions sends you down a highly problematic path. Unless you can identify a specific action you took that led to this outcome, you are left with unnecessary guilt, shame and a victim position.
To temporarily ask such questions is not uncommon. But, to get stuck on these questions is to invite misery to stay.
However, if you get past these lesser questions and ask, “What next? What do I do now? What is the next right thing to do in this situation?” You have shifted the narrative in your mind to a positive position. You are no longer a powerless victim, but an active person making choices and taking responsibility for your future.
This takes courage. It is not always easy. You may relapse into the lesser questions, but don’t give up. Try again.
Better questions lead you in better directions.
Worth Repeating
Suffering is universal. But victimhood is optional.
-Dr. Edith Eger
The Choice
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